Today is a special day for my wife and me. A day where we can look back two years and reminisce about our marriage. Today, May 15th, 2017 marks our two year anniversary! But, that is only a third of the length of time we have been together. July 15th, 2017 will mark the 6 year anniversary of when we began “dating”. Four years of getting to know each other, learn about each other, and grow together in love. But, today marks the two years that we have been married! A special day indeed.
We married young in the eyes of many people. If you want to read more about that I made a post way back when I started blogging in March talking on that same subject, which you can find by clicking here: Married Young. By young, I mean she wasn’t even legal to drink yet (she was 20) and I was 21 and a half! Culturally speaking that is pretty young. As I look at the average American the age that couples marry at has become older and older. In 2013 the average age of a man and woman marrying in the States was between 27-29 years old (per a couple of online sources). So, we beat the average American by 6 to 9 years! Yet, I wouldn’t have waited any longer than I had to marry her. The timing was perfect.
When I say that the timing was perfect I mean that in almost every sense of the phrase! I told her I would wait to propose to her after she graduated high school. We both went to the same high school in Minnesota and then to the same Community College her senior year of high school and my first year of college. During my first year at the Community College, I had decided to pursue a career in golf. Yes, golf. I didn’t desire to become a professional golfer on tour, but I did want to be a course pro where I could own my own course and teach others to golf. It wasn’t until I was required to take a turf-grass management class and had to dissect a blade of grass when I decided maybe this wasn’t the course (pardon the pun) I wanted my life to go. At
During my first year at the Community College, I had decided to pursue a career in golf. Yes, golf. I didn’t desire to become a professional golfer on tour, but I did want to be a course pro where I could own my own course and teach others to golf. It wasn’t until I was required to take a turf-grass management class and had to dissect a blade of grass when I decided maybe this wasn’t the course (pardon the pun) I wanted my life to go. At that point in time golf was my life. I had put golf before anything else. Golf came before God. It came before church. It came before family. It came before my girlfriend (at the time). My average week consisted of at least 4 or 5 days spent golfing (roughly). It took a stupid turf-grass management class for God to show me where my heart was. It wasn’t on Him. It wasn’t on the things He wanted me to concern myself with. It wasn’t on the people in my life. Thankfully, God directed my thoughts to reflect on what I wanted to do since I was able to talk. I wanted to follow in my father’s footsteps and become a pastor. So, I heard God’s call and decided to go to a Bible College to begin pursuing the education I would need.
After my first year at Community College, Trisha (my girlfriend at this point in time) graduated from high school and was going to pursue a teaching degree from a nearby University. Around the same time, I had finally chosen where I was going to Bible College. Initially, I had hoped to go to a Bible College in the state of Minnesota, but God directed my steps to Emmaus Bible College in Dubuque, Iowa. This meant that I would be three hours away from Trisha and where she was going to school.
It was a rough year of school for both of us that first year I was at Emmaus. Her first semester had been a time where she could reflect on where her life was going. God used that to direct her interests away from a formal teaching degree and to stop attending a secular University. Before the start of her second semester, she had decided to apply for enrollment at Emmaus! This was something I had actually been praying for since I began my schooling at Emmaus. The first week of classes had shown me that this was a school we should both be attending. So, I prayed and prayed and prayed. Then, I prayed some more. When she applied for Emmaus I couldn’t have been more excited! When she was accepted I couldn’t have been more overwhelmed with God’s answer to my consistent prayer!
By the time Trisha was accepted into Emmaus we were already engaged to be married. The next year at Emmaus was one of the best years of growth in our relationship. We learned a lot about each other, we learned a lot about how to love each other, and most importantly we learned how to love each other the way God wanted us to love each other. At the end of the school year on May 15th, we got married!
At the end of the school year on May 15th, we got married! It was God’s perfect timing because had it been a year later I would have just graduated, which would mean a busy weekend for both of us! Had our wedding been a year earlier, well let’s just say we were not very mature at that point in time. Even if we had waited till this year to get married, we would have been dating for 6 years (along time to date as a Christian couple) and she just graduated from Emmaus last weekend! The busyness of our schedules and the events in our lives going on then and now just wouldn’t have allowed for a smooth wedding.
But, the day we got married, May 15th, 2015 at 5:15 p.m. (yes, 5.15.15 at 5:15) was the most perfect wedding I’d ever witnessed and been a part of! The preparations went smoothly, the ceremony was officiated by my father and he gave a beautiful message (without crying too hard!), the pews were packed with our loved ones and friends, the reception had great food, and our first dance was to the Beauty and the Beast song, Tale as Old as Time. Looking back on it is such a blessing! Trisha and I have tried to come up with something that went wrong, but there never was anything that went wrong! The only thing that was sort of frustrating was that the men’s boutonnieres were forgotten and someone had to go back to find them. Even that wasn’t too bad since those were brought to the church well before the wedding began!
Now, two years later Trisha and I look back on what God has been doing in our marriage and it is a miraculous thing! We are still getting to know each other, we are still learning about each other, and we are still growing together. Most importantly though, we have both been pushed by each other to pursue Christ in our marriage. He is who we want our marriage to center on. We don’t want our marriage to be about us. It isn’t about me and it isn’t about her. Our marriage is about Christ. We have an important role as a married couple. We portray the Lord in our daily lives. Our marriage should speak volumes about our Savior! I pray that in 50 years from now others will look at our marriage and say that they can clearly see Jesus.
Let me leave you with this Proverb.
Proverbs 18:22 (ESV)
22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing
and obtains favor from the Lord.
I really have found a wife and it is a very good thing! I see the favor of the Lord working in our lives and in our marriage! He has blessed us with a great two years of marriage!